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“You can’t do that!”

“The market is not good.”

“Real estate investing is risky!”

We have all heard these less-than-uplifting comments before. Everyone from seasoned real estate investors to newbies have come across naysayers when the topic of real estate investing is discussed. The toughest part about naysayers is that they typically are friends and family: those closest to us.

As we all know, these are the people we spend the most amount of time with, and we can’t just stop their returning calls!

During the last couple of weeks, between reviewing recent BiggerPockers Forum posts and having coffee with a couple who is looking to grow their real estate portfolio, the discussion of “naysayers” has been a popular topic. Matt is off this week, so it’s Liz here to give you some strategies and tips to overcome any naysayer who enters your world, so you can stay on a positive path to achieving all of your real estate goals and aspirations.

5 Strategies and Tips to Overcome Naysayer Negativity
1. Become More Emotionally Resilient and Mentally Strong

In order to do this, you must “know yourself.”

Some people are so strong and resilient that naysayers don’t even bother them one bit. However, depending on your personality, you might be more sensitive. I am the type of person who can be influenced by others’ opinions and can take things personally at times. When we first told people Matt was going to quit his safe and high paying job, people thought we were nuts. We had to increase both our emotional resilience and mental strength.

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One way that both my husband and I have become more emotionally resilient has been by listening to and reading success stories of real people we want to emulate. Rich Dad’s Success Stories was a very inspiring book early on that provided great stories on how real people were applying financial independence lessons in their life.

Another absolutely fantastic biography that I just watched recently on Amazon Prime is Magic Beyond Words: The JK Rowling Story. The funny part is that I have never read any of the Harry Potter books or watched any of the movies. However, I was completely fascinated and uplifted by watching all that JK Rowling had to overcome. The key is to watch and read something everyday that gives you another reason to “stay the course” and overcome any obstacle you are facing.

A strategy we both use to become more mentally strong has been to use positive affirmations. This is not wishful thinking. This is a process by which you state your intentions in the present sense and focus your mind and energy on them. Somehow, by writing and stating out loud your affirmations, the universe aligns the right people, situations and circumstances to help you achieve this affirmation.

2. Accept That Every Naysayer is There to Teach You Something

“Life is a classroom and every person who crosses your path is your homework.” — Anonymous

I believe not only every naysayer, but every person is in our life is there to teach us something. I can recall that when I shared with some family that I was going to quit my job in 2008 and join Matt full time in our business, I certainly heard from the naysayers.

This was a fairly risky decision since we had a loose plan on how we were going to “make it work” financially, but we were going to rely on savings and then just figure it out together. I had some naysayers ask me about “cash flow” and how we were going to pay ourselves consistently. Still, no matter what people said to us, no one was going to talk us out of our decision.

However, in hindsight, while I did not appreciate the naysayers at the time, I can see that their “negative” feedback could have actually helped me and taught me something — if I allowed it to do so. Now, I am not saying you have to take to heart what naysayers tell you, but sometimes their “doom and gloom” opinion can actually help. We could have better prepared ourselves, no doubt, so we could have learned something from the naysayers.

Here are some questions to ask when you begin to hear naysayers stating their opinion to you:

Where is this person coming from?
Is there anything I can learn from what they are saying?
Does their opinion hold value or are they just speaking from their own fears?
3. Guard WHAT and HOW Much You Share With the Naysayers

If I needed advice for raising my 11-month-old, I would go to other mothers who have a child of a similar age to receive advice and support. I would never go to someone who does not have any kids to give me advice on how to raise kids.

You would agree, right?

What completely baffles my mind and is a HUGE pet peeve of mine is that everyday people take advice from naysayers who have NO experience in the area that they are being negative about. I love people who tell me about landlording who have never had any tenants. Or people who tell me about all the risks to flipping properties who have only watched HGTV shows. Or better yet, people who tell me about how it is risky to invest in Trenton, NJ (an urban community) ,when they themselves have never even stepped foot in Trenton or invested in an urban community.

I have always been super careful as to how much I share with potential naysayers. I would not ask someone who has never started a business to give me advice about starting a business. It makes no sense. Guard your dreams, goals, and aspirations like your life depends on it — because it does on some level. I would only share your aspirations with others who are going to support you, not tear you down.

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